Thursday, June 25, 2015

Negative Self Image

Until I started working with women clients on a day to day basis, I didn't realize just how many women suffer from body dysmorphia and/or negative self image. I have so many clients that work their butt off every day, stick to their diet, and achieve awesome weight loss or muscle gain mile stones yet still look at themselves in the mirror in a horribly negative light. 

With all of the social media, magazine, movie images that are stuffed down our throats every day, I can completely understand why this issues exists but I wanted to write this post to encourage each and every one of you to change your thought process. When you look in the mirror instead of first seeing the cellulite you want gone, or the fat under your bra you wish wasn't there, or the lack of muscle in your legs that you've been working so hard to put on, find the positive. So you have cellulite-- but you also have ab definition, or you have skinny quads but boy have you built up those shoulders. By lifting yourself up and looking at your negatives as opportunities instead, I guarantee you will be a happier person, because I myself have made this change. 


If you look at my Instagram how many pictures of my mid section can you find? MAYBE 2 or 3 and those were from right before or right after a photo shoot when I was dieted down and pretty lean. Why? Well because my mid section and lower back is where I store my fat. Everyone has that one place that hold fat first and that leans out first-- its just genetics.  So unless I'm really diligent and really dialed in as far as nutrition and cardio goes my body likes to hold fat in those areas. For so long I compared my abs (or lack thereof) to others I saw on Instagram and guess how that made me feel? Like garbage of course because mine look nothing like theirs. But you know what? As soon as I started changing my mindset and looking for the positive I became a MUCH happier person. When I look at the photo above I see strong, muscular arms that I am so proud of and quad muscles that I have worked my butt off for over the last year. Sure I don't have a crazy ripped mid-section and you know what, chances of that happening probably aren't the best but that doesn't make all the hard work I've put into being a strong, healthy human negligible. 

So next time you look in the mirror and start to pick yourself apart, look for the positive instead and remind yourself you are YOU. You're not the fitness model in the magazine, or the actress on TV (but I guarantee they have their own insecurities) and that's okay. 


6 comments:

  1. Thank you so much for posting this! I have been struggling so much over the last few months with my body image and its really bringing me down! Every time I look in the mirror all I can see are the things about my body that I don't like. Every time when I see women on social media and their success stories of how they have transformed themselves and how great they look I feel like a complete failure and wish I could just look like them. I am not overweight but I am not a size 2 or 4 either. I am so stressed out about nutrition and the way I look that I feel like its taking over my life. It is a daily struggle but I am trying to find more positive things. Its not easy but I try.

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  2. Thank you so much for posting this! I have been struggling so much over the last few months with my body image and its really bringing me down! Every time I look in the mirror all I can see are the things about my body that I don't like. Every time when I see women on social media and their success stories of how they have transformed themselves and how great they look I feel like a complete failure and wish I could just look like them. I am not overweight but I am not a size 2 or 4 either. I am so stressed out about nutrition and the way I look that I feel like its taking over my life. It is a daily struggle but I am trying to find more positive things. Its not easy but I try.

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  3. Thank you so much for this post Brittany, I have to remind myself all the time that it's about progress not perfection. Having come from anorexia and having body dysmorphia it can be really hard especially during a bulk but like you said you have to focus on the positives because it will never ever feel like it's enough no matter what you do. I can now usually pin down if I'm having a bad day with body dysmorphia and I find that it usually plays up when there are a lot of stresses or anxiety in my life. I really wish the world would see the damage it's contributing with all the photoshopping and filters... what happened to real, raw and honest? We need that.
    You look freakin strong and badass!

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    1. I agree! Social media can be fun and inspiring sometimes but not if its all fake!

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  4. Thank you for this positive post. I will put your ideas to use. I hate looking at my body in the mirror, especially after giving birth. When I see my little one I think it is all worth it.

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  5. You just need to give yourself time and allow your body to recover, you'll get there!

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