Our society is filled with people that are always trying to be the best. Be the best mom, the best employee, the perfect student. When did just being you become sub par? I've noticed myself falling victim to this thought process and it's starting to drive me a little bit crazy. I am someone that 100% believes in having goals and doing everything in your power to achieve those goals, as long as they are personally going to make you a better person.
But I also believe we should all strive to be OUR bests. Setting a goal based on someone else's achievements or abilities is when things get rocky. Somtimes, no matter how hard we try or how much time we put in to something, we will simply never be as "good" as someone else. No matter how hard I try, I'm never going to be as good of a swimmer as Michael Phelps, or as good of a singer as Carrie Underwood. It's just never going to happen. And if I set a goal to win a Grammy and then fall short, it's going to do nothing but make me feel like crap.
Where is all this coming from? Well, it's probably going to sound silly but I've been striving since day one to get shoulders like Jamie Eason. I love her arms I think they're awesome and it's always been a goal of mine to shape shoulders just like hers. Then there's this girl at the gym I go to, and her shoulders are amazingly perfect too. Everytime I see her working out all I can think about is how badly I wish my shoulders looked like hers do. But something clicked today and I realized basing MY goal off of what someone else looks like is just setting myself up for failure. Maybe my shoulders can never look like Jamie's or the girl and the gym. I can do shoulder presses and front raises until I'm blue in the face, but maybe it's just not in the cards for me. Just like it may not be in the cards for the girl at the gym to have biceps like mine, or hair like mine, or work ethic like mine.
We're all uniquely perfect in our own ways and I hope you all understand and believe that. Setting a goal to better yourself is amazing, and so is having role models, but we all need to stop comparing ourselves to one another and base success off of our strengths and accomplishments. I post progress pictures for two reasons; one so that it keeps me accounable, and two to provide motivation and show that any ordinary person can achieve their goals. I hope you look at those pictures and say my goal is not to have ___ just like her, my goal is to increase my personal record by ____.
Promise me and I'll do the same!! My goal isn't to have arms like Jamie, it's to shoulder press 30lbs 8 times by the end of January. :)