Thursday, December 6, 2012

Because being YOU is enough.

Our society is filled with people that are always trying to be the best. Be the best mom, the best employee, the perfect student. When did just being you become sub par? I've noticed myself falling victim to this thought process and it's starting to drive me a little bit crazy. I am someone that 100% believes in having goals and doing everything in your power to achieve those goals, as long as they are personally going to make you a better person.

But I also believe we should all strive to be OUR bests. Setting a goal based on someone else's achievements or abilities is when things get rocky. Somtimes, no matter how hard we try or how much time we put in to something, we will simply never be as "good" as someone else. No matter how hard I try, I'm never going to be as good of a swimmer as Michael Phelps, or as good of a singer as Carrie Underwood. It's just never going to happen. And if I set a goal to win a Grammy and then fall short, it's going to do nothing but make me feel like crap.

Where is all this coming from? Well, it's probably going to sound silly but I've been striving since day one to get shoulders like Jamie Eason. I love her arms I think they're awesome and it's always been a goal of mine to shape shoulders just like hers. Then there's this girl at the gym I go to, and her shoulders are amazingly perfect too. Everytime I see her working out all I can think about is how badly I wish my shoulders looked like hers do. But something clicked today and I realized basing MY goal off of what someone else looks like is just setting myself up for failure. Maybe my shoulders can never look like Jamie's or the girl and the gym. I can do shoulder presses and front raises until I'm blue in the face, but maybe it's just not in the cards for me. Just like it may not be in the cards for the girl at the gym to have biceps like mine, or hair like mine, or work ethic like mine.

We're all uniquely perfect in our own ways and I hope you all understand and believe that. Setting a goal to better yourself is amazing, and so is having role models, but we all need to stop comparing ourselves to one another and base success off of our strengths and accomplishments. I post progress pictures for two reasons; one so that it keeps me accounable, and two to provide motivation and show that any ordinary person can achieve their goals. I hope you look at those pictures and say my goal is not to have ___ just like her, my goal is to increase my personal record by ____.

Promise me and I'll do the same!! My goal isn't to have arms like Jamie, it's to shoulder press 30lbs 8 times by the end of January. :)

21 comments:

  1. I am SOO guilty of this too. I need to stop comparing myself to anyone except yesterdays ME! Great post.

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  2. Love this! thanks! and you WILL press 30 by the end of January! i need to start some goal setting too. :)

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  3. Your right. We are all unique in our own way. If we all acted a certain way or looked the same then life would be boring. lol I love this post. Thanks for sharing.

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  4. You're too cute! Love this post! I think everyone is guilty of this in some way or another. It is important to come back down and remember who we are is good enough.

    xx

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  5. thanks for posting. this is so encouraging.

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  6. I love this post and I totally agree!

    Every time I tell myself I want to look like this fitness model, or another woman... I get frustrated because deep down I KNOW it's never going to happen. I had to remove some models from my Facebook account because seeing them over and over looking 'flawless' (in my opinion anyways) was getting to me; it wasn't motivating anymore. And that is not what I need.

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  7. Beautiful post!! I agree! I need to stop striving for Jamie's abs... and just uncover my own! Their in there... somewhere.... lol

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  8. I love this post, this is literally ,EXACTLY what I needed today. It can get so frustrating and discouraging, I compare myself to all these fitness models everyday, and I have been wanting it to stop. I want to workout for me and me only. This helped so much thank you :)

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  9. I've just recently had this ah-ha moment myself. I have very muscular legs and I was forever doing everything I could to make them look like someone else's legs that aren't as muscular. But that's not going to happen. So, I have decided to embrace the ME that I am! Not try to be someone else! Great post!

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  10. AWESOME POST!!! We are so hard on ourselves we never sit back and say you know what I'm proud of all that I do. Great Great post!! You rock Brittany!!! :)

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  11. Well said Brittany! I struggle with this as well and have been working on being the best ME I can be and not try to be ___ or have what___has. It is very freeing :0).

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  12. Great post! I needed this today. With how busy we have been lately I always feel like I am not "perfect" at something in my life. Thank you for putting life into perspective. I am going to be the best I can be. :)

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  13. I love where this is going girlfriend! Freeing yourself from constant comparisons is incredibly liberating. We are all completely different from everyone else on this planet. There are girls at my gym who can squat way more than me and can perform snatches way better than I can, and they are teeny tiny little things who don't have to worry about every single thing they put into their mouths. But I cannot focus on what they can do - I can only focus on what my strengths are and appreciate my body for what it does.

    Every moment I think about them, is one less moment I have to think about how I can be my best self ever.

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  14. Hey B, I really love your blog. Your posts and honesty. I look forward to your writing every week, for me its like my morning paper before I head into work.
    I really loved this lastest post you wrote, it really hit home with me. I am the same about my 'abs' I have always wanted a 6 pack and no matter how hard i have work they still have not popped...and when I see others who work less than me and get them easily, yeah it gets upsetting. But after reading this today its put me into a positive mindset, so from a kiwi girl thankyou :)

    Kander.

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  15. Thank you so much for this! I always need reminding, that I'm never going to have a tiny, slender frame, or tiny thin thighs, but I have a great stomach and upper body, and work out and eat good, so I'm doing pretty good! And I'm the best "ME" I can be! It's nice to be reminded we shouldn't be comparing ourselves to others, but how well we treat ourselves :)
    Thank you, you are inspiring!

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  16. Like everyone else has mentioned, thank you for posting this. The fact that an official Oxygen magazine MODEL feels insecure at times and falls into the "comparison trap" makes me feel better about my own similar things! (my glutes, hamstrings, and calves are just soooo slow to grow...but, you are exactly right, I always feel motivated and better when I compare them to their 'old'/weaker form, and I always feel worse when I compare their current state to fitness models/competitors legs.)

    Great post, and keep it up :)

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  17. Absolutely amazing and truthful post. I think we all find ourselves doing this often, yet others are doing the same with our strengths. I'm going to work on this and I know you're going to rock this too! You go girl. LOVE this post!

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  18. i so know where you are coming from i see all these girls with amazing abs and obliques on IG i want it so bad i just have a flat stomach but i know i have a different body than these girls i see!

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  19. Thank you for posting. I've been struggling with this lately.

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